That Girl With The Weird Voice

How far does it take for you to change instead of waiting the other person doing their part?

17:22 When you’re married, you shouldn’t expect to know your spouse completely. Sure, you should’ve done the ‘investigation’ part. But, along the way you’ll still find something that you don’t know about each other. Something that you didn’t think about before. Something completely new. I’ve been in that kind of situation before, and currently is. It takes time to wrap my head around it. To just accept without trying to understand. Because sometimes, understanding something that clearly different from your own believe is impossible. It is always acceptance over understanding. xx Ajus.

I believe every relationship is unique. As much as I believe that every person, no matter how much similar, will always have -at least- one difference to tell them apart. And relationship are even more unique because it consist of two different person trying their best to make it works. This year I'm on my second year of marriage. In this short amount of time I tried, and still trying, to learn 'how to' navigate a marriage. One thing that I've learned is, again, every relationship is unique. It's different from one another. Not every 'love-quotes' or 'marriage-advice' out there are made for us. One simple thing, I read somewhere, a long time ago, an advice about marriage of how we should not be on our phone on bed everyday. Or something like that. It will make us drifting apart from each other. But in this very second, Me and my husband are currently sitting on our bed Me with laptop on my lap, writing this post (on normal day I'...

Minggu, 19 Mei 2019 00:48 Suami, yang udah tidur duluan, tiba-tiba nepok-nepok sambil nanya, 👦🏻 Belum tidur? 👩🏻 Iya, belum bisa. Kamu kenapa kebangun? 👦🏻 Mimpi ngga enak 👩🏻 Apa emangnya? 👦🏻 Mimpi kamu ditangkep satpam 👩🏻 Makanya nepok-nepok? 👦🏻 Iya ngecek masih ada (di sebelah) ngga 👦🏻 *kemudian langsung tidur lagi*

Hello Internet, we meet again. 557 Days. I've been married for that many days. I know it's not that long, but long enough for people to ask us (me & my husband) about kids. And that isn't considered improper or impolite by society, something that I strongly disagree. For us getting married and having kids are two different things. At that time, we were ready to get married, but not ready enough to have kids right away. Our priority was to to know each other much better as spouses. Also, we wanted to enjoy life as a married couple first, just the two of us, considering the fact that we had to move overseas for a year right away after the wedding, the timing was just not right. And then now, four months after we got back to Indonesia, we're still in the same stance as we were 557 days ago. We're not ready yet. The more I think about it, the more not ready I am. Like, in every aspect. In my opinion, having kids means great responsibility. Because contrary...

Saturday night. 10:39 PM. Currently sitting on my bed. Husband playing guitar to a familiar song. I don't know the lyrics. I've just drank a gulp of bottled coffee. It tasted quite okay. But my stomach will totally disagree. It feels funny. Okay, gotta go. Need to finish level 2283 on Gardenscapes. Bye.